tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7642926518478611827.post7900027328263874267..comments2023-10-09T05:02:29.608-04:00Comments on Ivey Lane: the inner voice of a not-so-average woman: BaffledIveyLanehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00752315896121837812noreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7642926518478611827.post-86601696090042512232010-07-17T10:35:22.015-04:002010-07-17T10:35:22.015-04:00I totally relate to this. It's a hard thing tr...I totally relate to this. It's a hard thing trying to understand what's going on in the other couple's minds. They may be innocently busy or they may have had a "two steps forward, four steps back" moment. Either way, they should have the politesse to tell you directly. That's been my biggest issue with relationships in general, that people just don't say what's what.<br /><br />DON'T take it personally. Just cut that out right now. <br /><br />And also don't presume friends and intimacy where only flirting exists. All of this is hard stuff and even after months with a person, I've found them dropping the scene. It's a hard lesson to learn, but trust doesn't come easy in this world nor should it. <br /><br />If they don't respond to a nice friendly email, then just let them go.<br /><br />XO<br /><br />GooseAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7642926518478611827.post-65526077282905853022010-07-14T10:11:28.921-04:002010-07-14T10:11:28.921-04:00I can relate to your insecurities. I have done th...I can relate to your insecurities. I have done those same things my whole life and have a similar history to you and Emmy. I'm sure it isn't you though. It's probably just real life intervening as it always does. Stress, responsibilities, medical issues, maybe nerves on their part. Who knows. You can't speculate.Just A. Girlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16966549641442466728noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7642926518478611827.post-61958958779781992292010-07-13T22:13:57.342-04:002010-07-13T22:13:57.342-04:00Based on your description of the chemistry, I agre...Based on your description of the chemistry, I agree with Emmy that something has likely happened and they just haven't been able to get in touch. But waiting for the phone to ring sucks no matter what the circumstances!Babe Lincolnhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07240189255716551312noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7642926518478611827.post-86738590692038734122010-07-13T16:56:36.733-04:002010-07-13T16:56:36.733-04:00Emmy hit the high points of what I was going to sa...Emmy hit the high points of what I was going to say...<br /><br />I'll just add, I wouldn't dare keep you waiting ;-)Hubmanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12080481657336478578noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7642926518478611827.post-39862833000301770362010-07-13T12:06:49.124-04:002010-07-13T12:06:49.124-04:00Hope you hear from them soon, one way or the other...Hope you hear from them soon, one way or the other. <br />I hear you on the self doubts. I do the same. If you figure out how to end it completely let me know. I haven't been able to turn it off. :) <br />Hang in.MinorityReporthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18267577811719566140noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7642926518478611827.post-52069968486950815952010-07-13T10:37:30.893-04:002010-07-13T10:37:30.893-04:00We often comment that sometimes we feel like we ar...We often comment that sometimes we feel like we are in high school again in terms of the waiting and wondering about if it is rejection or poor communication. We recently went around with a couple we have been playing with for close to a year now. They sort of dropped off the face of the earth. Found out later that something big had happened, and they just hadn't gotten to telling us yet. Don't spent too my time overanalyzing it (says the woman who is good at overanalyzing things). <br /><br />And, you and I have a similar dating history too, btw. Once I hit my stride last fall, I definitely got affirmation that it wasn't me. Before that, I had the same fears. Hang in there. :)Emmyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17388957859381430402noreply@blogger.com